Baggage. Everyone has baggage. Suitcases, handbags, valises, trunks whatever you call them, we all have them. And not just for travel.
When we are born our collection of baggage is non-existent. As we grow, age and mature, the amount of baggage increases. Baggage come in forms from small satchels, the size of a child's backpack, to Cross-Atlantic Ocean liner trunks. Mommy and/or Daddy issues: a 25" wheeled upright. Negative body image issues: a small trunk. Financial shortcomings: a 21" upright, and offspring: one to several travel totes. Let me give you examples.
Scenario #1: Middle-aged woman, overweight, overworked, stressed with raising a family of 4 with no spouse making slightly above minimum wage with debt doubling daily has baggage the size that game shows give away as prizes. You know the type that usually comes with a free trip to Rio or Cabo.
If you are that person, you want to lessen your baggage for many reasons. For one, you would become more appealing to potential significant others. Why is that important? It's not if you are not interested in that sort of thing. However, most people want to go this route. Therefore, you want to make the necessary life adjustments to lose some baggage. However, if change is not an available option. Maybe, there are people out there who love a good challenge. And there are. There are people who think they can save you from yourself.
Scenario #2: You are a young man. No job. No money. No means of reliable transportation. No options. Your baggage would be just as large and heavy. He would be in the same boat as Scenario #1 lady. But, yet, there are. There are some people who think they can "fix" this individual.
My opinion: My experience and observations have proven that you can't "fix" people or take away their troubles. Even if you have deep pockets (money) and a vivacious, positive outlook on life. It's just not going to happen. People are who they are. You need to ask yourself: "Do I want to deal with all this and what I carry myself?" "Am I strong enough to handle and carry this baggage?" With every relationship comes with a kicker, new baggage. Yes. New baggage can develop.
My advice: Before you enter a relationship of any kind, measure the combined baggage. Estimate and gauge, if you can carry the weight and handle the extra baggage. Relationships implode early and rapidly when you are not prepared. Nothing says failure more when you are blindsided by the weaknesses in your lives. Only carry as much baggage as you can get to the curb.
When we are born our collection of baggage is non-existent. As we grow, age and mature, the amount of baggage increases. Baggage come in forms from small satchels, the size of a child's backpack, to Cross-Atlantic Ocean liner trunks. Mommy and/or Daddy issues: a 25" wheeled upright. Negative body image issues: a small trunk. Financial shortcomings: a 21" upright, and offspring: one to several travel totes. Let me give you examples.
Scenario #1: Middle-aged woman, overweight, overworked, stressed with raising a family of 4 with no spouse making slightly above minimum wage with debt doubling daily has baggage the size that game shows give away as prizes. You know the type that usually comes with a free trip to Rio or Cabo.
If you are that person, you want to lessen your baggage for many reasons. For one, you would become more appealing to potential significant others. Why is that important? It's not if you are not interested in that sort of thing. However, most people want to go this route. Therefore, you want to make the necessary life adjustments to lose some baggage. However, if change is not an available option. Maybe, there are people out there who love a good challenge. And there are. There are people who think they can save you from yourself.
Scenario #2: You are a young man. No job. No money. No means of reliable transportation. No options. Your baggage would be just as large and heavy. He would be in the same boat as Scenario #1 lady. But, yet, there are. There are some people who think they can "fix" this individual.
My opinion: My experience and observations have proven that you can't "fix" people or take away their troubles. Even if you have deep pockets (money) and a vivacious, positive outlook on life. It's just not going to happen. People are who they are. You need to ask yourself: "Do I want to deal with all this and what I carry myself?" "Am I strong enough to handle and carry this baggage?" With every relationship comes with a kicker, new baggage. Yes. New baggage can develop.
My advice: Before you enter a relationship of any kind, measure the combined baggage. Estimate and gauge, if you can carry the weight and handle the extra baggage. Relationships implode early and rapidly when you are not prepared. Nothing says failure more when you are blindsided by the weaknesses in your lives. Only carry as much baggage as you can get to the curb.
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